Third Month Theme: Rest, Reflect and Observe New Things

I’m about 80% settled here! There’s more time to relax! I can reflect more on how the last three months have gone. It was kind of been a blur up until Christmas. This is the point where I can observe and absorb my new country now.

Calgary Baptism of Fire

Here’s another weird Calgary weather story! I had to go out at about 8 am in mid-January. I checked the temperature on my phone and didn’t see indicators of the previous day’s forecast of snow in the morning. It was still, clear and looked like it would be sunny later. Yes, in mid-January, the sun STILL rises late! It wasn’t too cold, so I was on the fence as to whether I needed my down parka. I decided not to wear it and left my hat behind too…

Ten minutes out the door I was suddenly hit with this bone-chilling Arctic wind and hail! “HOLY S**T!!!” was my first thought! It was too late now to go home for my parka! Fortunately, I had a cashmere sweater that I pulled over my head as I walked. The blast didn’t last too long though. Calgary had JUST avoided a blizzard! The temperature dropped too. In other words, I saw an immediate barometric pressure change firsthand!

Okay, what just happened? Was this a baptism of fire for living in Calgary or something? What did I learn from this? Check the radar map too if I’m going out! Checking the current forecast, temperature and windchill are not enough! Weather reports are never entirely reliable, especially on a cell phone. Regardless, I need to know how much to layer up. I learned the phrase, “Don’t like the weather? Wait 20 minutes.” within my first month here. You can replace “don’t” with “do” in that sentence too. I laughed before. I have actually lived it now! It’s VERY real for me!

Everything Else is Boring by Comparison

Just kidding! The temperature is dropping more. We’re in the -10s and sometimes the windchill makes it feel in the-20s at this point! I hear a lot about the -30 degree temperatures but haven’t experienced it yet. Watch this space! Walks help me learn what I should wear at what temperatures before I have to go do chores. One example was when I took the photos for this post. It was -14 degrees with a windchill of -18 and it was hard to leave my gloves off for more than a minute or two! I tried buying gloves that had a grip on them for your cell phone screen, but it was a rip off!

Recently, we got a dusting of new snow along with hoarfrost. I can’t imagine anything more beautiful! When I walked by the river, there was a stretch that was completely frozen. The river gets more frozen by the day. I have never lived anywhere where the river freezes before. I was tempted to walk on it but decided not to. I’m not fully Canadian yet, so I don’t have the intuition to judge ice thickness.

I see SO many geese flying over every day to congregate at the river! It’s crazy! Why haven’t those birdbrains flown south yet?

I Admit That I Wished for Snow

Be careful what you wish for, hey? In Calgary, you’re more likely to get it! There was a reason I wished for it. I had a flashback to a time in London that was an incredibly stressful and miserable time in my life. I feel like I can heal from it now that I’m in Canada partly because there is snow that makes everything beautiful. My Mum said it says a lot about Canada if I feel safe enough to think through this garbage and heal from it. I agree with her on that.

Additionally, I was exhausted for a few days, so I stayed in bed. It was due to my move. There comes a point after moving overseas where I have had to sleep it off! It doesn’t happen right away. It creeps up on me. There are some stressors that don’t end for a long time (if at all). Once there’s a time to breathe a bit more, the fatigue hits! It was time to press the Reset button! I was so tired I didn’t give a crap about Inauguration Day in the US!

A Word on How I Feel About US Politics

Honestly, I’m still numb. I still have this strong part of me that says “I do NOT want to talk about it!” When I moved to Calgary, I had to be strict on that boundary. I broke that norm when I did my post Storming the Reichstag 2.0. My personal boundaries on talking about it still stand. I’m feeling more emotionally resilient than I was when I first moved here though. I am in a new country though and I want to respect their own cultural norms when it comes to politics.

Had Another TCK Moment about US Politics

I was 10 when I moved away from the US for the first time. Politics was boring adult stuff for me. 9/11 happened and I learned of ripple effects from the US around the world. Then, I came across a challenge that many TCKs face.

Politics didn’t come up a lot while I was living life outside my home in London. UK politics doesn’t get discussed nearly as much. I didn’t fully understand how UK politics worked, frankly. News shows were cryptic and I gave up learning it after a while. When I studied for my citizenship test though, it finally made sense to me!

My Dad has always talked about US politics incessantly at home. It gets so tiresome! Because of the cultural conflict between my home and life outside in England, I didn’t understand it. When you’re having a conversation in the US, sooner or later, you will start talking about politics. I didn’t realize that until I repatriated to the US. There is an unhealthy obsession with politics in the US. People from other countries really don’t understand that. A friend of mine pointed out that the US stands out in the world as an exception to the norm. She’s so right!

I think other cultures making politics a taboo topic can be healthy under the right circumstances. People have been taking breaks from politics because of the amount of depressing stuff going on. Cultural structures can act as pre-imposed boundaries on the amount of political discussion. I am breaking my habit of talking about US politics because I’m not there anymore. I do feel peer pressure from other Americans to talk about politics sometimes. My response is, I am in another country, and we aren’t obsessed with politics. Being a TCK can be a powerful thing.

Push and Pull between Cultures

When I move to a new country, I get this push and pull effect between my last country and my current country. As a TCK, I need to reconfigure balancing all my cultures now and then. Moving to a new country is one of those times to reconfigure.

Here’s one example. I have been loving the winter SO much! There are different things that are new to me about a sub-Arctic winter! There’s a push from the US and a pull towards Canada. That feeling is strong and deep! I am bracing myself for someday needing to go to California. I have to sort through a room full of stuff that I left behind. When will that happen? No idea. People I know have false hope that I’m returning for good. I have to squash it.

Sometimes, you get updates from your loved ones in your last country that make you wish you were there. That’s the biggest pull of all. Problems can be increased in severity by a factor of 10 when you’re overseas. Other times, people from your last country can say things that feel like peer pressure to return.

A Note on Peer Pressure

A word to the wise: if you know someone who is living overseas, please don’t ask, “when are you coming back?” They either might not know, or they may not want to do so, or both. Additionally, please don’t say, “when you come back”. I have had people do both to me and I hate it!

I am understanding of people who do this because they haven’t lived overseas. They don’t know how things work. Things can get complicated or plans can change for whatever reason. Take my situation about needing to go to California someday. I thought that was going to go back in April. Now, I know I can’t, and I have to apply to extend my stay. I don’t want to go to California until I know for sure that I would be allowed back into Canada. I told people in California that I would be there in April, but I didn’t know my situation would change.

What I hate though is people being unsupportive. I can tell the difference between someone not knowing how things work and them being unsupportive. The best example I can think of this from Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. Okay, spoiler alert: Kim Baker breaks up with her cheating boyfriend. He blames the fact she’s been in Afghanistan. That hits home! I saved her line of, “Go to (insert something bad)! It sucks! You’ll fit right in!” It’s EXACTLY how I feel at moments like that!

People who have been the most sensitive are the ones who let me talk about my situation first. If they ask questions, they do it respectfully. If I mention that I might be visiting, we can randomly say we can do some fun things when I do. That is the best!

A Word on Getting Settled in A New Country

The question, “Are you settled yet?” is rather disconcerting for me. I’m going to do a more detailed post about what getting settled in a new country really means to me. I will probably stay at 80% settled for a while, frankly. There are circumstances beyond my control that will keep me from being 100% settled. Additionally, if my immigration status isn’t what I call solid, it’s hard to feel 100% settled.

That’s it for now. What do you think of what I said about my expat/TCK life here? I’m open to discussion! Any further tips on sub-Arctic winter would be welcome!

Summary Post for Travel Challenge

Hi everyone! I see you loved the photos I did for the 10 Day Travel Challenge, and here’s the summary post for everyone to see. I’m sorry it took me a while. Recent events in the US just left me numb for a while.

I also closed my survey a few days ago. Thank you to everyone who voted! I will talk about that in my next post.

10 Day Travel Challenge

Day 1: Canadian Rockies en route from Vancouver to Calgary! Monkey’s Tale answered correctly!

Day 2: Plymouth, England

Day 3: Devon, England

Day 4: Shakespeare’s House at Stratford-upon-Avon, England.  Wandering Canadians and Monkey’s Tale got the country correct!

Day 5: White Cliffs of Dover, Dover, England. Monkey’s Tale got the correct answer!

Day 6: John Day Oregon, when the total eclipse happened a few years ago.

 

Day 7: Bridal Veil Falls in Yosemite National Park, California.

Day 8: Downtown Los Angeles, California from the air. Rosaline Bacchus got the correct answer!

Day 9: Grand Teton National Park from over a couple of decades ago. Monkey’s Tale got the correct answer!

Day 10: Sunset in Monterey Bay! Rochelle from Adventures from Elle got the correct answer!

It was a fun challenge and I thoroughly enjoyed it!

 

 

10 Day Travel Challenge- Day 10

Hey everyone! This is the Travel Challenge! I was invited by Ariela from arielaonthego to post one of my favourite travel pictures a day for ten days! (Thank you for the nomination!)

So, the rules are to post 10 travel pictures for 10 days and do 10 nominations. Many of you are already busy with the challenges, tags, or nominations. However, if you want to participate, consider yourself nominated! And have fun posting travel photos! By the way, if you are doing a blog about your own country, feel free to post beautiful photos from there too! We would love to see them!

If you know where one of my photos was taken, let me know in the comments. The next day, I will reveal the locations of the previous picture. So stay tuned! Enjoy! Not sure if I will make it all 10 days. Plus, I may have to go a day or two without posting. Still getting settled in a new country after all!

**Please note that I am closing my blog survey on the 15th, so if you haven’t filled it out yet, please do! I will do a summary post of the travel challenge and include my survey results soon!

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Answer to Day 9: Grand Teton National Park from over a couple of decades ago. Shout out to Monkey’s Tale for the correct answer!

Day 10 Photo:

* Hint: Listen to the song Everywhere by Tim McGraw.

If you answered it correctly I will give you a shout out on the next post and at the end of the challenge!

Today, I nominate Rochelle from Adventures from Elle. I hope you can participate! If you can’t, or if you have already done it, that’s fine too.

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10 Day Travel Challenge- Day 9

Hey everyone! This is the Travel Challenge! I was invited by Ariela from arielaonthego to post one of my favourite travel pictures a day for ten days! (Thank you for the nomination!)

So, the rules are to post 10 travel pictures for 10 days and do 10 nominations. Many of you are already busy with the challenges, tags, or nominations. However, if you want to participate, consider yourself nominated! And have fun posting travel photos! By the way, if you are doing a blog about your own country, feel free to post beautiful photos from there too! We would love to see them!

If you know where one of my photos was taken, let me know in the comments. The next day, I will reveal the locations of the previous picture. So stay tuned! Enjoy! Not sure if I will make it all 10 days. Plus, I may have to go a day or two without posting. Still getting settled in a new country after all!

Answer to Day 8: Downtown Los Angeles, California from the air. Shoutout to Rosaline Bacchus for the correct answer!

Day 9 Photo:

 

If you answered it correctly I will give you a shout out on the next post and at the end of the challenge!

Today, I nominate Tiani Angela from tianiangelahibbert. I hope you can participate! If you can’t, or if you have already done it, that’s fine too.

See Also:

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10 Day Travel Challenge- Day 8

Hey everyone! This is the Travel Challenge! I was invited by Ariela from arielaonthego to post one of my favourite travel pictures a day for ten days! (Thank you for the nomination!)

So, the rules are to post 10 travel pictures for 10 days and do 10 nominations. Many of you are already busy with the challenges, tags, or nominations. However, if you want to participate, consider yourself nominated! And have fun posting travel photos! By the way, if you are doing a blog about your own country, feel free to post beautiful photos from there too! We would love to see them!

If you know where one of my photos was taken, let me know in the comments. The next day, I will reveal the locations of the previous picture. So stay tuned! Enjoy! Not sure if I will make it all 10 days. Plus, I may have to go a day or two without posting. Still getting settled in a new country after all!

Answer to Day 7: Bridal Veil Falls in Yosemite National Park, California.

Day 8 Photo:

 

If you answered it correctly I will give you a shout out on the next post and at the end of the challenge!

Today, I nominate Expat Alien. I hope you can participate! If you can’t, or if you have already done it, that’s fine too.

See Also:

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