And the sun shines on the Bay.

Oh, I want to be there in my City (to do chores that I can’t do in Calgary).

My variation on Journey’s classic song has a message. Yep. I’m going back to the Bay Area for a bit.

san francisco golden gate bridge
Photo by zoe pappas on

Going “Home” To Do Chores:

When you live abroad, you have to go back to your home country to do chores once in a while. They build up after a while and then you can’t wait anymore to do them.

We didn’t plan for this when we lived in London, and we got bogged down with chores. That made repatriating to the US more difficult. We only visited the US four times in 13 years and that wasn’t enough to stay on top of chores.

After two years of living in Canada, we have A LOT of chores to do in the Bay Area! The pandemic, and my Dad trying to move here, but not making it made things worse. Immigration isn’t helping either with their four-year backlog of applications and being unbelievably petty! More on that later.

Pit Stop:

The Bay Area has always been a pit stop for me and my parents. Our family members live there for one thing. Plus, I wouldn’t choose a pit stop that doesn’t have an international airport.

Going Home to Do Chores is a Pit Stop like in the Cars Movie!

The most important thing we have to do is get my Mum her hip and knee replacement. It was her idea to go back for it. When she said it I thought, “Wow! She’s in serious pain if she suggested this!”

Other chores will be registering our freelance copywriting business. Yep. I am getting started with it. I’m also pre-applying for freelance gigs so that I will have work by the time I get back to the Bay Area.

I also pre-launched our website, and I will have an upcoming page on my blog site about how you can work with me if you need a copywriter. If you want to get a notification for when our site launches, click here.

I’m glad to be going back to sort out a two-year backlog of chores. Plus, I didn’t say goodbye to the place and people properly when I left because of the pandemic. It’s time to right the wrong.

In the future, I am going to be a digital nomad. There’s adventure out there with my name on it and I am already learning how to get started with it! Watch this space for more updates!

Important notice: in March 2023, I’m going to change my blog domain to I got so lucky snagging that domain! I’ll put a notice on my homepage, so you don’t miss that transition.

A Gentle Request:

To all my followers, please don’t ask me about my plans now. I’ll tell you when I tell you.

Sometimes, when moving abroad things change so fast that it’s impossible to plan ahead.

As someone who has the title of Organization Queen in my family, it can be difficult for me to be in a situation where I cannot plan a single thing.

I also learned when helping someone else move abroad you may not be the one doing the move, but you get ALL the feels!

All I can tell you is what is happening right now.

I was talking to a TCK that I know and he asked me what my plans were. I must have had “that look” on my face of irritation that only people who have moved abroad can understand! He apologized and let me know that it was because he cared and we hadn’t talked for a while. That was cool.

Anyway, thanks for understanding!

So, What Is Happening Now?:

The move is due to happen in a month, and we decided to do so about two weeks ago. It’s not as crazy as it sounds because we don’t have too many things attaching us to Calgary and we can get rid of 95% or more of our stuff.

How do I do an international move in a month? Don’t have too many possessions you can’t live without, don’t have too many attachments and have no qualms about whatever brings you back to your host country. Haha!

My parents and I are coordinating plans etc for moving right now. I know I still haven’t said what happened when Dad tried to move here, but I’ll wait. That’s another story and it does connect with us needing to leave Calgary. I’m too tired for stories right now and there’s too much on my mind.

I didn’t want to believe it at the time, but the writing was on the wall when my Dad didn’t make it into Calgary.


It’s not just me who is saying this. I have talked to other people who have moved or travelled to other countries recently, not just Canada, the US, or the UK. Bottom line: Immigration and Border Patrol have got SO FUCKING WEIRD LATELY!

It doesn’t matter if you research the rules before you move, or travel. There are too many unwritten rules lately. The only people who know what those rules are are the people who live in border towns.

My Dad didn’t make it into Canada because of one of those unwritten rules. It was only when he talked to locals in Sweetgrass, Montana that he found some peace of mind over being rejected. Although, I think the fact he tried to go through the Sweetgrass/Coutts border crossing didn’t help.

There was a blockade at Coutts during the Trucker Convoy last February. We know damn well that if some disturbance at a border crossing makes national news, tensions are going to run high at that crossing for a LONG time! Anniversaries of those incidents create tension for many years and it’s best to avoid them as much as possible.

And that’s not politics. That’s common sense!

Dad and I are going to avoid that crossing at all costs when we are driving across the border soon. Fingers crossed we won’t have to change plans and do it!

I think the pandemic has been a border guard’s sexual fantasy where they can pull some reason out of a hat to not let you in. They may not have friends because they are jerks, so they have to resort to their own prejudiced sexual fantasies.

And It’s Reaching A Crisis Point:

I have talked to other people who have moved to Canada and are struggling because of the four-year backlog at Immigration. I’m in the loop with what’s going on in international community circles, and there is a definite trend of immigrants cutting their losses and leaving Canada because it’s getting to be too much. You can’t get on with life if you are waiting too long for your application process.

Even if these things don’t make national news, rest assured international communities are onto a country when they have BS immigration or travel rules!

My friends who have recently moved to other countries have had no problems getting visas. Canada is the only country that still has an immigration backlog and they are blaming the pandemic. That’s not an excuse anymore, especially for a G20 country that prides itself on welcoming immigrants. Non-G20 countries are doing a better job at immigration now! Burn!

This is another reason why I don’t feel ready to settle in a country for a while. That and economic reasons. I have been amazed at how much better off people say they are with becoming digital nomads!

Final Comments:

Thanks to all of you who voted in my poll in My TCK Stories of Queen Elizabeth II! My Dad shall continue to say his date of birth with pride, as 75% of you said he should!

Hope you are all doing well! I miss you all, but I will be back once I am back in the Bay Area and things are more settled.

I just realized that when I’m moving, I will get to use the line from Schitt’s Creek Season 1, Episode 1 when it’s their moving day and “There’s a pharmacy of drugs wearing off most of us right now”.

When you’re moving abroad, it’s certainly normal for your body’s chemicals to make you feel that way!

Enjoyed the post? Please comment or share with credit! πŸ™‚

Similar Posts


  1. Sorry it’s been a while since I’ve been able to catch up with you! Sounds like another adventure l. β€œChores” boy do I know what that’s about! Good for you asking for your space till you know your next move. As a follower I’m here to cheer you on whatever it is!

    1. It was another adventure. I got a cracked rib in transit, which I also wrote about. I’m also going to be making some changes to my blog next year, which is why I have been needing space! So good to hear from you! Don’t be a stranger

  2. I feel you when other people ask about my travel plans, as someone who travels a lot it’s like, when I post about it on my socials THATS when I want to share it. Not before. Anyway, great post, and good luck!

    1. Yeah, for sure. Same here. Plus, with internet security being what it is, I do it after the fact. Like, I will do a post about driving down to California from Calgary, but not until long after the fact. So, it actually works for me when I am doing an international move to talk about things after the fact when I am not in a position where plans keep changing on a dime and it’s frustrating having to tell people those changes when they ask. Thanks for your kind wishes and your lovely comment 😊

  3. Safe travels and best of luck with all your chores and with the move. Wishing your mom a quick recovery from her surgery. And that’s very exciting about your freelance copywriting business!

    1. Thank you. It wasn’t an easy decision, but too many things were going wrong. Plus, the chores pile up, and when you have a stay of execution in a country while waiting for a visa, it doesn’t work. I’m excited about my business as well! Having my own business is something I have always wanted to do and now I’m doing it!

  4. Best of luck with your move. It is a crazy world right now, no matter where you go. Each place may be a different kind of crazy, but its still crazy. So glad I have only lived in one country. Cheers. Allan

  5. Love your post. I don’t know why that you have twenty lines of Javascript at the end of your post. I am using the “notification” window and probably that’s why this happened.

Enjoyed the post? Please comment or share with credit! :)