Trying Hard to Feel Anything But Devastated

In the movie Julie and Julia, Julia Child talks about trying to feel anything but devastated when she and her husband leave Paris. Why did I choose this quote for my title? Because I will be leaving Canada sometime this year. We made the decision recently that Canada isn’t working out for us, and we’re going to move somewhere else. There comes a time when a country either works, or it doesn’t, and unfortunately, this hasn’t worked out. I’m not shaming myself because I know this can happen to anyone. Just like Julia Child, I’m trying hard to feel anything but devastated.

One thing that makes me feel better is this amazing quote from Call the Midwife. She’s so correct!

Trying to Feel Anything But Devastated
Trying to Feel Anything But Devastated

Feeling Devastated is Normal:

I have felt it every time I have had to say goodbye to another country. It’s a loss, like leaving a relationship. And in that vein, you can describe a country like a person that you are in a relationship with. I’m glad I was too young to remember leaving France. I’m sure it would have been breaking up because circumstances drove us apart, like Ted and Alexis in Schitt’s Creek. Leaving the US the first time was like leaving a comfortable relationship because you wanted more. The second time was more like going back to that comfortable relationship, only to discover that the person had become openly hostile and violent. Leaving the UK was like getting out of a relationship that was underhandedly abusive like being in a frog in boiling water. Leaving Canada feels like being in a great relationship, but there are too many problems.

I read the article “30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know By The Time She’s 30” by Glamour Magazine. Item One on that list is one old partner you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. It’s true for countries as well. The countries I can imagine going back to are France and Canada. The ones that remind me how far I have come are the US and UK. Thank you, next.

What Happened:

As many of you know, we had some major medical drama around Canadian Thanksgiving. Suffice to say, our struggles were just beginning. Financial concerns, medical concerns, a two-year backlog on immigration were compounded by a new Alberta law. This law says that you can’t get covered by provincial healthcare while you are waiting for permanent residence. We still haven’t been able to apply for permanent residence because the application process is backed up too. It’s expensive, and now there is no guarantee we will get it. That was the final nail in the coffin.

Bottom line: When you move to a new country, you shouldn’t be put in a position where you have to suffer. Medical problems and financial problems are already tough enough when you’re abroad without it being compounded. When I say “tough enough”, I mean when you move to another country, you already have to deal with money and health problems on a whole other level because of adjusting to new money systems and a new healthcare system. If systems don’t work in your favour, it’s terrible! It’s days and nights of stress and lack of sleep, crying and tempers (even if you have good communication within your family). I wonder how many people who moved to Canada are in the same position as me. There’s more to the story, but I don’t feel like talking about it right now.

If you’re going to ask me if the Trucker’s Convoy has anything to do with my decision, I’m going to say, “You mean the Fucker’s Convoy!” And secondly, I really can’t deal with that right now. I have too much going on.

Anyway, where am I moving next?

Let’s Play Where To Invade Next:

Like Michael Moore, I am using the phrase “Where to invade next” satirically. If you have seen the movie, you know what I mean. So, without further ado, let’s play Where To Invade Next!

Clue #1: It’s an EU country. So now your odds of guessing correctly are now 1 in 27.

Clue #2: It’s a country that colonized other countries during the Age of Exploration.

Clue #3: After Donald Trump’s Inauguration, other countries made introduction videos welcoming The Donald in his own words. The hashtag #everysecondcounts was trending. The last line of the videos always says, “Listen Donald. We totally understand it’s going to be America first, but can we just say our country second?” It was a satirical rush for second place. What country started the trend of videos vying for second place?

Clue #4: Fill in the blanks for this line from the movie Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. “Even the (blank) army don’t wear (blank).” IYKYK.

If you know the answer, write it in the comments!